Monday 10 July

I posted a couple of swimdress pictures on flickr and seeing them alongside the early picture of Barbara made me smile. I know she would not want me to be miserable, but to remember the good times we had together, so despite it being 'early days' I am determined to do that while looking also to the future. It would be all to easy to sink into some maudlin introspective of her final years, but that would be to traduce the memory she would want me to have of her. Since the life-saving surgery of December 2015, she became increasingly disabled and dependent, so whilst not forgetting that, I prefer to slip a little further back in time.

I dressed and Tom came round and we spent a couple of hours chatting about Barbara, travels and dressing, which was very nice. I said he could leave his things, which may have been a surprise for him. It felt a little empty when he left, but that's only to be expected. He mentioned a dressing service in Ramsgate that he has used, which may be interesting in time.